Friday, December 11, 2009

Beyond Christmas Gifts...


America spends about $450 BILLION on the holidays... (and some of that is crap we don't want)

We've DOUBLED our amount of storage in the last 10 years for all of our crap.

We spend all this money to show people that we care... Can't we do it more effectively?

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Last night I was talking with some of my friends; mulling over the Holiday spirit and Holiday consumerism (which we all buy into, and we all complain about).

Giving gifts isn't a problem. Giving a lot isn't a problem. But just giving with out thought--is a problem.

What if we gave some of that "giving money" that some of have or don't have...but give anyway... What if we gave to help those in need... especially those that don't have clean water.

WATER

Not having enough water.

I don't think about it much because I have it.

A LOT of it.

It's easy to get to (my kitchen). I turn it on and can let it run. It's hot. It's cold. I can fill a glass in seconds and give it to my children. I can cook with it. Bath with it. And drink it.

But how many people don't have that?

1 in 8

Sometimes women and children need to walk 3 hours to clean water--and that can be a dangerous trek.

80% of diseases and death are because of unsafe water and sanitation issues.

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What if we gave some of our Christmas spending to an actual cause?!

I challenge you to give some of that Christmas money and give it to a Cause... something BEYOND YOURSELF.

Try:



or another organization of your choice.

You can still give it to someone, in their honor.

It'll probably be better than that Walmart or Target gift anyway.

If you do; I encourage you to post about it: post on here. Put it as your facebook or twitter status. Spread the true holiday spirit of holiday giving.


Wednesday, November 11, 2009

How I Feel Tonight...Because I don't know how to feel

FireFlies
By: Owl City

You would not believe your eyes
If ten million fireflies
Lit up the world as I fell asleep

'Cause they'd fill the open air
And leave teardrops everywhere
You'd think me rude
But I would just stand and stare

I'd like to make myself believe
That planet Earth turns slowly
It's hard to say that I'd rather stay
Awake when I'm asleep
'Cause everything is never as it seems

'Cause I'd get a thousand hugs
From ten thousand lightning bugs
As they tried to teach me how to dance

A fox trot above my head
A sock hop beneath my bed
A disco ball that's just hanging by a thread

I'd like to make myself believe
That planet earth turns slowly
It's hard to say that I'd rather stay
Awake when I'm asleep
'Cause everything is never as it seems
When I fall asleep

Leave my door open just a crack
(Please take me away from here)
'Cause I feel like such an insomniac
(Please take me away from here)
Why do I tire of counting sheep
(Please take me away from here)
When I'm far too tired to fall asleep

To ten million fireflies
I'm weird 'cause I hate goodbyes
I got misty eyes as they said farewell

But I'll know where several are
If my dreams get real bizarre
'Cause I saved a few and I keep them in a jar

I'd like to make myself believe
That planet Earth turns slowly
It's hard to say that I'd rather stay
Awake when I'm asleep
'Cause everything is never as it seems
When I fall asleep

I'd like to make myself believe
That planet Earth turns slowly
It's hard to say that I'd rather stay
Awake when I'm asleep
'Cause everything is never as it seems
When I fall asleep

I'd like to make myself believe
That planet earth turns slowly
It's hard to say that I'd rather stay
Awake when I'm asleep
Because my dreams are bursting at the seams

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Caribou... I miss you.


It's 10pm. My husband is at home with the kids, and I need to get out. I need to breathe a little bit, go out, DO something.

And this is when I miss my Caribou...

I miss the aroma, the atmosphere, and of course the warm cup of fine coffee in my hand. I miss spending time with friends, and hanging out. I miss reading a book there, where people are moseying in and out, chatting, and studying.

I miss having a place to go at 10 o'clock at night!

Everything around here is closed, or intensely boring. I drive around, running little errands, and walking really slow through the aisles of Walmart. There is nothing I want. Nothing I need--other than to be out.

So, I make my way back home, with more from Walmart than I would have spent at Caribou. Oh Caribou... I miss you...


Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Truen (behind the name)


"So, do you have a name picked out?"

"Yes, finally, we have it narrowed down!"

"Oh really?! What's the baby's name?"

"We aren't going to say."

We did keep people in suspense at trying to figure out Baby #3's name. For most of the pregnancy we didn't have any trouble keeping it a secret, because we had no idea! No name seemed to fit, and what names we had we couldn't both agree on. (And no, we are not sharing "the list" either.)

We usually don't share the name of our child, because we either don't know; and if we do know, we don't want to hear all the comments... "Oh, the kids will call him....." "I had a really mean 3rd grade teacher with that name..." "My dog's named that!" "That name reminds me of..."

I don't really care what other people think of the name, because it's not up to them. But, for my own sanity, I didn't want any doubts. The name is a choice between Brian, God and me.

Grace Emmanuelle
Justice Daniel
Truen William

We wanted names that reflect the God that we know. The God who loves us. God in all of his glory... and the best way we can give him glory is to show it through our lives, and the lives of our children. We like names in the Bible, especially people that have characteristics that amaze us or gave God glory in amazing ways. But, when you look at those names, broken down in Hebrew, they usually meant things.
Elijah-- "the Lord is my God"
Isaiah--"the Lord helps me; God is my salvation."
Jacob--"By the heel."
Esau--"hairy"

Many people then would name their children based on their life or characteristic of the now.

For example, Joseph was sold into slavery by his brothers to Egypt. He was falsely accused of rape which caused him to be thrown into prison. While he was in this foreign country, in prison, he chose to serve God still, and he was able to prosper, be second in command in Egypt, and save the country from famine.

He also had two sons. The first he names "Manasseh" which sounds like Hebrew forget because "God has made me forget all my trouble and all my father's household." He moved ahead and didn't dwell on the pain of the past. The second son he names "Ephraim" which sounds like twice fruitful because "God has made me fruitful in the land of my suffering."

Brian and I wanted to do the same... only we didn't realize it when we began. We had a whole list of names picked out for our first child. We thought, prayed, and searched for names. Finally, after our daughter was born we chose Grace Emmanuelle.


Grace-- For the grace that God gives us without us deserving it. He sent his one, only, and perfect son to die on the cross for us. That is nothing less than "grace." We don't deserve it and he was able to do it for us anyway. This is the biggest gift. Also, there was a song that meant so much to me at that time, "Grace" by U2 and sung by Nichole Nordeman.

Emmanuelle-- A beautiful name of Jesus. He is "God with us," the Hebrew meaning of the name. At that time in our life, we especially saw that God was with us, taking care of us and guiding us.

Then, our second child came along. A boy, Justice Daniel.


Justice-- God gives justice. He isn't passive and distant, but is intimate and hurts when we hurt. He gives Justice to the poor, the needy, and the broken hearted. He often uses us to be His hands and feet to give justice to the poor and down trodden.

"He has showed you, O man, what is good.
And what does the LORD require of you?
To act JUSTLY and to love mercy
and to walk humbly with your God." Micah 6:8

Also at this time in our lives, we were calling out to God for justice in so many areas of our lives. That he would mobilize us to help with social justice and we asked for justice in our lives as well. And God reigns. He loves justice.

Daniel--It is Brian's middle name, so Justice is also named after his father. And Daniel means "God is my judge," pretty well in line with Justice. Also, Daniel, an amazing prophet and boy that becomes a man that follows God even in a foreign country and culture. He is a leader, cultured, and devout while practical. He also prophesied about Jesus saying:

"In my vision at night I looked, and there before me was one like a son of man, coming with the clouds of heaven. He approached the Ancient of Days and was led into his presence. He was given authority, glory, and sovereign power; all peoples, nations, and men of every language worshiped him. His dominion is an everlasting dominion that will not pass away, and his kingdom is one that will never be destroyed." Daniel 7:13&14

Not only does this describe Jesus, but Jesus says this of himself while he's on trial before his crucifixion. He claims to be the Judge, the one with all power (Matthew 26:64). He is then led away to be killed, only to rise from the dead and fulfill the prophesy.

Now, we have another son. And we struggled on the name. Many names are good, but aren't masculine enough, or they "sound" good but they don't have the meaning that we desired. Or... it just didn't roll off the tongue. Or... it was just plain weird. I have to admit... "Wrath" is a great name, but I had a feeling too many people would turn heads in a not so positive way! So, we finally chose, Truen William.

Truen-- Truth or True. We love that part of God. Jesus is the Truth, the Way, and the Life. His word is Truth. He keeps nothing in the dark, but brings the dark into the light. He is absolute, the plumb line. He is Truth.

At this time in our lives, we are praying for Truth. We desire it and seek it. We know that God does not keep things hidden.

"With my whole heart I cry; answer me, O LORD!
I will keep your statutes.
I call to you; save me, that I may observe your testimonies.
I rise before dawn and cry for help;
I hope in your words.
My eyes are awake before the watches of the night,
that I may meditate on your promise.
Hear my voice according to your steadfast love;
Oh LORD, according to your JUSTICE give me life.
They draw near who persecute me with evil purpose;
they are far from your law.
But you are near, O LORD, and all your commandments are TRUE.
Long have I known from your testimonies that you have founded them forever."
Psalm 119:145-152

William--There are two reasons for this name. One--after William, Brian's grandfather. His faith is one that we both have admired. He has a carefree approach to life, but grounded by a faith that is True and practical. He lives in this world without being of it. Two--William can be shortened to Will--another favorite of ours. God's Will in our lives. That He knows what is best for us and will help us and guide us. His Will is powerful and in control, even if we don't understand it.

There....the Truth behind the name Truen.

He's a beautiful addition to our family. We pray that he, and our other children, will be emboldened by their name. That they will take this name and know that it is part of who they are and who they can be. Because it's based on God's Grace, Justice, and Truth, we know that they can go far in glorifying him.

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Treasuring Child #3

I am so excited for this Friday! I am excited and I am nervous...

The last 9 months have been a blur. So much has happened, and so much has kept my mind busy that I haven't really noticed how quickly it has all passed. Now it's here! Grace and Justice have watched me grow. They have watch also a friend of mine grow and have a baby... So they understand that one day this "baby will come out!"

With everything going on, and it being baby #3, it is easy to pass off this miracle of birth. It is easy to think that it's just a life change, rather minor, and move on. "Oh, I'm sorry, I can't schedule anything that week, I'm having my third child."

Brian and I didn't want this pregnancy to be less special than the other two. We didn't want this birth to go unnoticed and be washed away in the waves of life. We wanted to celebrate!

Brian started celebrating by sending me flowers for every month of my pregnancy. I was able to see a representation of our love and the love of our newest child. I looked forward to it and I was able to slow down and appreciate this little one.

Then, we decided to get some maternity pictures done by Lit Photography. We scheduled a time when I would be at my largest, 38 weeks! We took an evening and took a ton of photos to celebrate.

Keep checking the blog, because we also have the photographer coming for the day of his birth!


Monday, October 5, 2009

Going to the Orchard


On Sunday we went to the Orchard. We've wanted to for a while, but it was either closed or raining. Finally, we went after church with our friends Kyle & Corrine and their baby to go and pick our apples and to give the kids that experience.

They really enjoyed it!

Saturday, October 3, 2009

Nesting


It's true. Nesting happens; and it has hold of me pretty badly.

I have less than a week before baby #3 will be born. Friday October 9 our third child and precious boy will be born. And I'm running around like a mad woman trying to get our apartment ready and everything "homey."

Nesting this time is so different than for Grace or Justice. I was making sure we had all the baby items we needed, all the boy or girl items we needed. Grandparents helped make sure the house was clean by scrubbing floors or just plain clean up.

This time...we live in an apartment and I feel good enough to move around (even though this basketball does knock stuff off of tables and such), and I can do my own cleaning and organizing.

The cooler weather had really helped bring it on. I LOVE AUTUMN. It's my favorite time of year. I love the smell, the sweater weather, the baking, and the crunch of the leaves. I adore the colors of the trees with the oranges, browns, reds, and yellows. I love apples, squash, pumpkins, and corn. Autumn. Perfect.

So, I have been switching out the kids clothes. Getting all of Grace and Justice's small summer stuff out of their drawers, cleaning the new warmer and larger clothing to arrange in their drawers. I am trying to clean and find all the newborn baby boy stuff and get it ready for #3.

With that, comes all the fall decorating. Finally putting up pictures that have sat for 3 months in storage in the "baby's room."

And the baking.

It's funny how you just crave things that you haven't had in a long time. Any recipe that calls for pumpkin or squash sounds soooo good to me. Slow cooker meals, mashed potatoes and gravy.

The last couple of days it's been those special home-made "mom" desserts. I usually hated rice pudding with raisins. I would always pass it up as a kid. Now, smell it... crave it.... I had to have it.

Tapioca pudding. I don't think I have EVER made it. Well, the other day I was whipping up a batch.

And then, last night, I was up until midnight making up my mother's recipe of Gift Giving Carrot Cake. Oh... I remember that recipe from autumns when I was little. I again hated the raisins... But this time, I was excited to see that a full cup of raisins go into this recipe! I made up the two loaves.

Please check out my recipe blog to try this Gift Giving Carrot Cake recipe. It is definitely worth a try. And remember to share it with friends!

Until then! You'll probably see pictures of our third child!

Happy Autumn

Thursday, September 10, 2009

lia sophia


So I haven't posted a whole lot of anything in a while. Bad me! I am sorry for all those people who say they read my blog, for those secret admirers (oh, I know you are out there) and for all those that will read, someday, and will read this as an archive (come on, I have to be real here!)

Life has been busy, busy, busy, messy, and fun. We moved the computer into another room, so it's not staring me in the face saying, "Betsy, you need to surf the net!!!" However, I still spend PLENTY of time on it anyway; just doing new stuff.

My newest endeavor has been business.

I have put myself into my own business with lia sophia as an advisor.

Crazy, huh? Who would have thought that when God did this major life change in May/June that direct sales was something he had for me in the future?

Let me explain.

So, being preggers with baby #3, my brain has been everywhere. I feel like a flighty blonde. I can't remember anything and I can't focus it seems. But while my brain was disconnected from my body, I was thinking of how to support my family when I was done with work. I know that God will provide, but I also know He doesn't just grow a money tree out my window.

My girlfriend was selling lia sophia and told me that I could do it too, for fun, get a discount, and probably make some money at it. Usually offers like this pass over my head. But this time, it stuck. And I thought about it.... A LOT.

While I was seriously considering it and praying about it; my sister called me, "Hey Betsy, do you think that I should sell jewelry or do something in direct sales to help make some money?"

My answer was, "YES, and ME TOO."

I signed up with lia sophia and I have enjoyed every step of the way.

So, I have been doing that for the last month and a half. And here are some awesome reasons I like it:

  1. I have met SOOOOO many people. Random people, friends of friends, re-connected with people that I shouldn't have lost contact with in the first place.
  2. I help women feel beautiful. We go through life and forget to pamper ourselves a little bit. I LOVE seeing women who say, "oh I don't wear jewelry," try something on and their eyes light up with how they can see their beauty and I watch their confidence grow.
  3. Empowering women. I love to share that I am not the only one who can do this! Work from home. Work a little or a lot. Need help talking in front of others and need more confidence? Let's do it. Want to have a little ownership in providing for the family? Here's a way that you can do it!
  4. Working for myself, but not by myself. I didn't have to build a business empire. I don't have to be the CEO of my own company. But I can choose when I work, how much I work, and choose what I do with the money. AND I can go to meetings and feel supported by other women who do the same thing I do!
  5. The jewelry. Of course! Who couldn't LOVE the jewelry?!
  6. The money. I love knowing that I am making money that I can contribute to school debt, helping others, monthly bills, my beloved digital camera that I still haven't gotten, and maybe Christmas presents.
  7. Oh, and did I mention meeting people?! I have lived in this town 1 1/2 years, and I have done LOTS more in this town for the last 14 years, and I don't know anybody. Finally, I am adding cell phone numbers, meeting people, running into people when I am doing errands, and really getting to meet people. Oh, I love it.
  8. Girls' night out. I get to leave my kiddos with daddy and hang out with the girls. Scheduled. On my schedule. And have lots of fun.


Okay, believe it or not, that's not a pitch. I am really excited about this opportunity that God presented to me. He gave me confidence while I was praying about this whole thing by bringing to my mind Proverbs 31.

"She seeks wool and flax, and willingly works with her hands.
She considers a field and buys it; from her profits she plants a vineyard,
She girds herself with strength, and strengthens her arms.
She perceives that her merchandise is good, and her lamp does not go out by night...
She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household is clothed with scarlet...
Her clothing is fine linen and purple...
She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies sashes for the merchants.
Strength and honor are her clothing...
Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised."

These verses gave me confidence in using my gifts and abilities to care for my family. I can clothe them in scarlet; I can wear fine linen. I can sell, buy, and be in business and bring glory to the Lord and my family.

But to remember the moderation. It is not for my own gain, but to help the poor; be a merchant of God's money, and to remember that Charm and beauty is fleeting, but my true worth is in my LORD and God.



PS Brian started a new business too! MANCAVE

You'll be seeing a post on that in the future, I'm sure.

Friday, June 5, 2009

Hey sure...why not?

Why not just throw another thing in?

So, finally, Grace is feeling "better." She's still irritable, but at least manageable. She's not throwing up or having diarrhea. In fact, yesterday she ate and ate (probably to make up for what she hasn't eaten the past week), and played practically all day.

Justice was doing fine...

Then, I go to put new clothes and diaper on him this morning.... and he's broken out in hives all over!

WHAT?!

Alright. Let's take him in to the doctor. AGAIN. We've been in at least 3-4 times this week! 


He's acting fine and chipper. He eats just fine and everything thing checks out normal, except that he's got red blotches all over his skin.

The Doc checks him over... and tells me he's allergic to cefprozil. 

Ah, heck. Why not?

Cut him off the antibiotic, give him benydril. 

Poor babes. They've had a heck of week.

Can I PLEASE go on our anniversary vacation now?!!!

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Moving and Rotavirus

It's been a while since I have posted. AND there are reasons why!

I feel like life keeps on speeding along, dragging us along with it if we don't move fast enough to keep up. And dragging we have. There never seems to be enough time in the day. I sit and think... "Is it good to have so much to do? Isn't life more about living and less about doing?"

Now, we can take that to mean WAY too much. Thinking that we don't have obligations or even be self centered about it. But, really, how many social obligations do we tangled up in and drive ourselves down.... just for the sake of etiquette and social standing?  

Maybe nobody understands. Whatever. IT IS my blog.

Anyway. We've been running around like a mad-man. Trying to move to another apartment, attend graduations and graduation parties, along with work and finally.... sick kids.


Yes. Grace is sick.

She's getting over rotavirus right now. We had two nights of her throwing up and we decided to take her in to the doctors. Of course, we had to miss like 4 graduation parties and slow down.... but I guess that's okay, right?  We got to baby our babies...

At first we thought she had a viral flu...only to find out that she had rotavirus. Google it on the internet. But, basically there is nothing to treat it but to let it run it's course. Which is vomiting, diarrhea, and very low immunity. 

So, Grace has been hanging out. Watching "Thomas and the Magic Railroad" (definitely not a 4 star movie) and snacking on saltine crackers and drinking pedialyte. Fun. Fun. 

Justice has been extra hyper: throwing food/toys/random items from around the house. His favorite activity is to stand on something...to fall down and cry to mommy. He plays and steals Grace's toys. Oh the joys of being 1 1/2.

And life keeps on chugging along, taking us along with it. I just want to stop once in a while, get off, and stretch my legs...

Thursday, May 21, 2009

Going Green....in Romance?!

(I'm writing this for the guys)

I often write about our kids, the cute things they do, and how I see God through them. While that is truly amazing (and I do take a billion pictures of them), I don't take enough time to take pictures of my husband and brag about him too.

So here we go:........

Going Green in Romance.

I love the little things he does.

I love how he seems to be thinking about me all the time...



He remembers the way I like my coffee, and he takes time to make it that way. He remembers that I like chocolate, what kind, and why.  He remembers that I like to try new things. 

He shows me that he loves me through remembering, but also by showing me that I'm special in the small things.

It's all about the small things.

So guys... if you are confused by women (which you should be, because we are an enigma)... here's some hints to help you woo your gal.

  • HORD & HIDE
If she says she doesn't want chocolate... she's lying. But she'll still get pissed off if you give her a box of chocolates... WHY?! 

Because, she's trying hard to watch what she eats. You've just handed her temptation! What a gift. So try it this way.... 

HORD & HIDE. Buy some chocolate... her favorites... and keep it a secret. It is in your stash... your box of tricks. Open the package and give it to her a couple morsels at a time. 

  • PRESENTATION
Why do girls fuss over table settings, pretty things, and how things look? Because it is important to them! 

You know those chocolates?! Don't just drop a couple on the kitchen table! Try this:

Hide them so they are meant to be found (Like next to a cup of coffee, on her nightstand, or book that she's reading)

Put them on the kitchen table... but in a wine glass. (My father-in-law did this for mother's day for my mother-in-law and it was SOOOO cute)

Add a note. It doesn't have to say anything much for those of you who aren't good with words. Just show some thought... "I love you, my sweet"

  • RE-USE 
This brought on the inspiration of this blog. 

I went to my bed after laying the kids down for bed and saw this:

Nestled in my pillows was some flowers. (Presentation!!!)  I loved it. Brian snuck in while I was busy, and put one sprig of flowers on my pillow. Now, these weren't new flowers. He'd given me this arrangement a week ago. So I've been staring at them for a while. 

But I hadn't seen them on my pillow before!

Perfect.
  • CELEBRATING THE ORDINARY
 Don't forget Mother's Day, Anniversaries, and Valentine's Day. But, she might be more forgiving when you don't buy overpriced flowers on those days right before you came home.  But remember to celebrate just simple things.

One morning I was going to work, and when I sat down in my car I was surrounded by yellow post-it notes!!! Each one had written on it one thing he loved about me. And they were stuck all over the inside of my car!

Okay, so that one takes a bit more thought... But it is CHEAP! Post its are cheaper than overpriced flowers Valentine's flowers... and she'll love you more for it.

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Okay, off my soap box...

But I treasure my husband and it's just nice to brag about him once in a while.

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Where to go from here?

Where do we go from here?

I have no idea.

God gave us a step, to be done at First Baptist Church as their Youth Directors. After much thought, prayer, and fussing over it, we finally made that step of faith.

But what now?

Usually, it seems, you are done with one thing BECAUSE of something else. But not this time. We were asked to take this step, and wait.

So, now what? 

  1. We could move; no idea where, but we could.
  2. I have been thinking about taking a Spanish class; goodness I need to brush up on it.
  3. We are thinking about signing Grace and Justice up for baby swimming lessons.
  4. We could actually visit some people.
  5. We could volunteer with things that I had to pass up before because of lack of time.
  6. We could rest.

I am excited, but also bewildered. I feel like we are given a whole new system. Instead of: "Here are things I want you to accomplish." It is: "Well, Brian and Betsy... which direction would you like to go? No option is a bad option... I'm letting you take your pick."

I don't know what to do with so many choices!!!

But here are some goals I hope we accomplish:

Visit Gabriel
One thing I would like to do is visit my nephew Gabriel. He's so close, and we didn't have time to visit. Justice and Gabriel are so close in age and would love to play together. WHY NOT? And yet, I feel like I hardly see him.

Intellectual Conversation
Not that I didn't have this before...but I am really rooting for it now. Last night, we actually visited with Nick, Heather, and Gabriel. While our children played, we got into deep conversation about repentance. 

I need more of that. I need more conversation where people don't agree all the time. I LOVE mulling over subjects of importance and debating, bringing up new points of view... And realizing things are a lot more gray than black-and-white.

Volunteer
There are so many things out there to help with. So many causes to be a part of to help improve the world. Let's get at them!

Slow Down
Now, I do not mean playing Wii, watching movies, and just blowing time. But, I would like to not be working according to a New York minute, but more on the time-scale of an African hour. 

I would be SOOOO excited to actually have people NOT say on the phone, "You sound so tired." I would be soooo excited to not have my husband rushing from one thing to the next. I would be soooo excited to actually sleep instead of passing out from exhaustion at night.

Not like having 2 kids and another on the way to keep THAT from happening. But... it's a goal, none the less.

So, God.... What's Next?

I have no idea. But I am ready for the adventure.

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Justice looks at his reflection in the glass. 
I love this picture, and I don't want that curiosity and wonderment to fade. 
Instead, I want to capture it.

Justice was running around one night, doing laps, around the kitchen.
He ran with his arms extended behind him.
He laughed the entire time.
So did we.


Cousin Gabe
We are so excited to come and play with you more!

Again, the wonderment of a slide. 
Grace played on that slide for hours.

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

I See...Volunteerism


Recently, someone asked me, what Grace and Justice were going to be "into" when they grew older; like gymnastics or basketball or something.

And I got thinking.

I have no idea. At the same time, I have a very good idea. 

I would like them to practice Volunteerism.

In this self-centered and self-betterment society, I see a very early in-breeding of self-absorption. 
"I want my child to be the best at [fill in the blank]! So, we are doing [fill in the blank] for him!"

"She really likes gymnastics...so we spend the money for her to do this..."

"I think understanding different cultures is important... so I am sending my child to German-day camp."

Whatever.

While I think that children involvement in things are good. Involvement and practices that work on skills that improve who we are, are good for people of all ages!

But we get stuck in it. As if each one of us is the center of our own universe.

And we don't see that there are causes and people right in front of us that could use our help, our expertise, our talents, to improve the world!

Woah.... that was a big step. Improve the world?! What are you talking about?!

That's exactly what I am talking about. Living life as if it wasn't about about yourself. Living life in front of your children, your spouse, your neighbors, to be an example that life is SO MUCH MORE than the best I can do! Improve the world!

Let me explain: I want my children to grow up to have compassion. I could send them to church. I could tell them about compassion. I could hold them and love them and show them compassion. Those are all good things... But there is PLENTY of that going on and I think we need to take it one step further.

Go with them and DO COMPASSION TOGETHER. Go and volunteer with a feeding ministry. Volunteer at a mentoring program together. Make an art project and bring it someone in the hospital. DO COMPASSION TO TEACH COMPASSION.

What are we truly teaching and showing others? Are we all about ourselves?

A wise person told me when I was frustrated that I couldn't find enough volunteers..... "People are busy with what they want to be busy with..."

What do we truly find to be eternally significant? What are we busy with?
Are those the same things?

I want my children to grow in CHARACTER. How do I do that? Well, I could tell them about character. Show them books and movies about people with good character. And reward them when they show good character... But I can't stop there.

I must MODEL GOOD CHARACTER. Let's put our money where we think the world needs benefit. Let's put our time into things that aren't all about us.

Self-Centered Generation/Society. Are YOU happy? What will make you happy? Go and achieve it! 

Most of the time, we really have no idea what makes us happy. Most of the time, scrubbing the floor of a make-shift garage for a Vacation Bible School doesn't sound like something that would make me happy. But it's a small stone of work. When others add their small stones, and people know the eternally wonderful difference of Jesus Christ... Those stones MEANT SOMETHING.  

When my small stone of work, gets added to the rest, what a MOUNTAIN of a difference it makes.

Let's Model That.

Let's Improve the World.

Live Beyond Yourself.



Friday, April 3, 2009

Getting Down with Martha Stewart


Finally, some creative inspiration hit me. I haven't been able to get into my scrapbooking lately... I have no idea why. But then, I was motivated to do something fun and creative for Easter.

So where should I go but to MarthaStewart.com! 

I was originally on there looking for some alternative recipes from Weight Watchers. I found some good ones... but then I stumbled upon the arts and crafts.

She had sooo many creative ideas for decorating eggs outside the normal vinegar and food coloring. So, I decided to stretch my creative wings and try one, making beautiful eggs out of origami paper. 

It was messy, a little difficult for the perfectionist, and a challenge. PERFECT!

Grace and I also made the string egg that the origami eggs are laying in. She a didn't want to touch the wood glue and water, but she loved popping the balloon after the string had hardened! 

When it takes 30-45 minutes to create one egg, I had a lot of time to ponder WHY I was making a beautiful Easter Egg. It's bizarre, how we use non-religious symbols on the most wonderful day of the year, the day celebrating Christ conquering death by rising from the dead!

The Easter Egg is actually a pagan symbol. It was pre-Christian, in use in Spring celebrations by the Romans, Greeks, and Persians because it symbolized life. Christians then adopted it into their celebration of the Resurrection Sunday.  

I think it's a perfect symbol really. It's an egg, a beginning of New Life. But, it also came from Life. That Life came from Jesus Christ, who died, and rose again from the dead!  

Also, many eggs (as were mine) are blown eggs. The insides are removed to just have a hollow shell.  Again, a beautiful symbol of Jesus' empty tomb 2,000 years ago. That empty shell has such beautiful symbolism, that I thought it necessary to take the time and effort to make exemplary eggs to show my gratification for what He has done for me.

Monday, March 30, 2009

The Love of a Daughter



These are my favorite pictures. And I thought I would repost them after I had photoshopped them a bit.

A Typical Sunday Afternoon

I don't think our family really has a "typical" anything, especially time. Usually Sundays we're visiting Grandparents, or doing something, or doing chores....or.... Goodness, "typical" is a word that doesn't really relate to our family.

However, if we had a "typical" this is what I'd want it to look like.

Grace and Justice love to read their books. Justice spent at least 1/2 hour reading Where's Spot? while sitting on this little table and chairs. He played, looked at the pages, and even tried to "read" the book!


But if that wasn't enough, Justice and Grace, LOVE to be read to. They always seem to be coming towards me with a book. Justice might not sit through the whole thing, but he does enjoy them.

You'll notice he's wearing shoes in this picture. Grace put on her shoes, and Brian said Justice INSISTED that he wore some shoes too. He wasn't happy until Brian strapped them on his feet. 

It was a lazy afternoon. We all were able to take naps, eat BBQ Chicken and Black Bean pizza accompanied with Vanilla Milkshakes... We played and read. We finally got a digital converter box for our TV so that we can receive digital channels over the air... but from our 3 stations, we much preferred it to stay off.


It was a great afternoon, even if I was sick, Brian was dead tired, and the kids were crazy! But, it was family time. 




Wednesday, March 25, 2009

10 Weeks Today

Awesome: inspiring great admiration 


It is so exciting to be pregnant. 

Again.

2 weeks ago Brian and I went to the first doctor's appointment. We got to see our little one via ultrasound. The features are not defined... but it simply AMAZES me how beautiful an 8 week old baby is. 

At barely an inch, this baby has grown to have moving arm and leg buds. There was a very strong heart beat. And then we got good look at the baby's spinal cord.

Spinal Cord. It was phenomenal. It was a tiny curved white line on the screen, but it was beautiful and AWESOME.  How far our little one has come, by the first appointment! I am sure there are plenty of people reading this thinking, "okay, she's gone off the deep end..." or "um, I don't get it." But neither do I! The blessedness and amazing thing of seeing our child on a screen, seeing a creation in the making, knowing that my body is providing a safe environment while the Father knits him or her together through no effort of my own.......

It can be none other that mystifying... incomprehensible... 

Awesome.

Our doctor gave us a roll of pictures. And two special ones for Grace and Justice so that they would also have a picture of their sibling.


The Story of the Dinosaurs

I have told this story to numerous others. It's one of the joys of having children... to see how they play and grow, even apart from parental influence!

The Story of the Dinosaurs
according to Grace

We have a puzzle. A dinosaur puzzle.
 The pieces are each a different dinosaur, brightly colored, and I must say...VERY FUN. Not only can you play with the puzzle, the dinosaurs are REAL and stand and do whatever you want them to do.

Grace, being 2, is very imaginative. And lately, we just celebrated at least 4 birthdays. She's had her share of singing, presents, and cake for birthday's sake.

So, playing out real life, I caught her playing...Birthday!

She had her dinosaurs around a "table" with a Little People's apple coin in the center as a birthday cake.

"Momma, sing me!....Happy Birthday to you......" And I sang with her the "Happy Birthday" song. This picture is of her clapping after the song. It was adorable.

The Story of the Dinosaurs
according to Justice

Justice's imagination is blossoming, even for 1 year old. I think he tries to keep up with Grace and watches how she plays and imitates play imagination play (yeah, try to figure that sentence out).

He is mischievous. Not naughty. In fact, he listens quite well. He just likes to push his limits, and he loves to tease his sister. His lips curl up into a devilish smile as he sees her unprotected blanket. He will pounce and walk away... the whole time giggling and looking at her for a reaction.

Anyway, it is HIS dinosaur puzzle after all. So, once in a while, when he actually gets to play with the pieces, he has a lot of fun.

"Justice, what does a dinosaur say?"

"GGGGGRrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrAAaar!"

Anyway, he grabs one of the dinosaurs... "Grraar!" The dinosaur is looking for something....

Justice picks up a zebra puzzle piece from another puzzle. The hungry dinosaur promptly "gggrrraar"s and devours the zebra! Then Justice throws the pieces across the room. And he smiles at me.

The End

Thursday, February 12, 2009

Just Today

Amazed.

I'm always amazed by her. She's sweet and so smart. I can't believe how much she can figure out and is learning every day. 

I am also learning that these days move too fast. I try to cherish everything, but it's so hard to remember everything!  I am used to absolutely cute chatter right now, but later, I know I'll miss it as her words become more pronounced and sentences more complicated.

So. Today. Just today. This is what I noticed about her.

She tries to say more than she can get out! She will talk so fast, as fast as she's thinking, that her words come out jumbled. It usually results in people looking at me totally puzzled, asking for her to say it again... and after a few attempts saying, "Oh really?!"

Ms. Independent! She is learning to climb up, climb down, and with confidence.

Reader. If I can side-track her into anything, it's into reading books. Whenever I'm reading to Justice, she comes over to listen and look (same for him, too). Currently her favorites are:
The Hungry Caterpillar
I Can Read With My Eyes Shut
Old Hat, New Hat

She's become a picky eater. She's all of a sudden has an opinion on what she eats. When I put supper in front of her, sometimes I hear: "Um...how 'bout cheese?" or "Um...how 'bout cake?" Justice will eat anything for supper; Grace will pick everything apart. She doesn't like her foods together (like in a casserole), but would much rather have them separated (like vegetables, potatoes, and meat). 

She likes green beans, peas, broccoli, cheese, meat, and pasta.

"How 'bout juice?" I hear that about 40 times a day.

She's starting to push Justice around. Literally. Justice gets much more in her fact, and now she wants her space and her toys. 

Grace loves movies. In fact, whenever anybody talks to her on the phone, that sounds like all she's done that day. "All Dogs Go Heaven all done." She gets to watch a movie while Justice takes his morning nap. She really likes that time, and tells Justice that it's time for him to take a nap! Currently her favorite movies are:
Horton Hears a Who
All Dogs Go To Heaven
and most recently Ninja Turtles.

So far, she doesn't care about potty-training. She's content and is moving at her own pace. Hey...whatever works. 

Grace has a sweet tooth. She likes candy. What child doesn't? When she gets Smarties or Pez she lights up.

An artist! She likes any art project I put in front of her. Coloring, painting, using chalk. She likes art and making things.

She's a night-owl. Go figure. Just like us. She'll lay down...and stay in bed for an hour, awake. We won't even know that she's awake until she comes and knocks on her bedroom door so we open it.  Usually she just needs a hug and to be laid down again. Sometimes we crawl beside her and hold her until she falls asleep....
I think she likes that.



Friday, January 30, 2009

Lion Chasers

God has been showing me amazing things; through dedicated time to think, meditate, and read, he has been stirring my heart. The Holy Spirit moves within me and I cry out to Him, "Use me! Change me!"

I am reading a book In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day, by Mark Batterson.  I know, what a title, huh?  But he talks a lot about living life on offense, taking risks, and focusing on God rather than life, a 500 lb. lion that's coming after you. You'll have to read the book to fully understand.

In Chapter Six, "Playing It Safe is Risky," I have to share some of his thoughts. It stirred my heart to action.

"Is anyone else tired of the church playing defense? Why is it that the church is known more for what we're against than what we're for? Why does it seem like the church is always in a defensive posture? Maybe it's time for Christ followers to put on crash helmets and play offense.

"God is raising up a generation of lion chasers that don't just run away from evil. God is raising up a generation of lion chasers that have the courage to compete for the kingdom....

"...Lion chasers don't retreat. They attack. Lion chasers aren't reactors. They are creators. Lion chasers refuse to live their lives in a defensive posture. They are actively looking for ways to make a difference.

"In his book Roaring Lambs, Bob Briner reflects on missionary conventions he went to as a kid where children were challenged to commit themselves to missions. And that's an awesome thing. Missionaries are heroes. But I agree with Briner when he says that the same spirit needs to prevail in sending our children into culture-shaping professions like entertainment, journalism, education, and politics.

"Why not believe that one day the most critically acclaimed director in Holleywood could be an active Christian layman in his church? Why not hope that the Pulitzer Prize for investigative reporting could go to a Christian journalist on staff at a major daily newspaper? Is it really too much of a stretch to think that a major exhibit at the Museum of Modern Art could feature the works of an artist on staff at one of our fine Christian colleges? Am I out of my ind to suggest that your son or daughter could be the principle dancer for the Joffrey Ballet Company, leading a weekly Bible study for other dancers in what was once considered a profession that was morally bankrupt? (Briner, Robert. Roaring Lambs, (Nashville: Zondervan, 2000), 5.)

"We need to stop criticizing culture and start creating it.

"Paul didn't boycott the Aeropagus. He didn't stand outside with a picket sign: 'Athenian Idolators Are Going To Hell in a Hand Basket.' Paul wasn't playing not to lose. Paul was playing to win, so he went toe-to-toe with some of the greatest philosophical minds in the ancient world. Paul competed for the truth on their turf.

"Instead of complaining about the current state of affairs, we need to offer better alternatives. We need to make better movies and better music. We need to write better books. We need to start better schools and better businesses.

"As the old aphorism suggests, we need to stop cursing the darkness and start lighting some candles!

"In the words of Michelangelo, we need to criticize by creating. And you can't create without taking some calculated risks." (Batterson, pg 120-122) 

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

16 Things

I have tried to do another blog post, but I have been so busy and tired that I didn't have enough ambition to finish! So here we go. Inspired by Ali Edwards blog, I finally have a blog post, and hopefully more will follow. So Here we go, 16 Things about me:

1. My New Year's resolution was to read at least 12 books this year and read through the Bible in one year. So far, so good! I'm on a Bible Reading Plan and have completed one book Church Marketing 101 by Richard L Reising, and currently reading Running with the Bulls without getting trampled by Tim Irwin.

2. I heart design. I like to make pretty photos, scrapbook pages, and documents that look cool, edgy, and put together. Fonts, .abr files, trendy colors, and new layouts and formats really peak my interest.

3. Leaving my brain on. When I look through a magazine, watch television, or walk down the streets, I am a student of the color, design, and the motive behind it. What are people selling me? Why is this this way? Why does this work? What's the worldview? I know, dorky, but I have learned a lot.

4. Coffee. I love coffee. I love stuff in my coffee. 2 tsp sugar and 1 tablespoon Coffee-Mate. Right now it's Gingerbread flavored creamer with Vanilla Almond Coffee... yeah the taste is interesting, but I'll drink it.

5. 45lbs lost with Weight Watchers.com. Woot woot! I loved learning about calories, fiber, balanced diet, and portion control. Through this I have also learned to make a meal menu and plan plan plan.

6. I have watched All Dogs Go to Heaven, Frosty the Snowman, and Fox and the Hound and gagillion times with my daughter. I love holding her and spending that time together.

7. I love to scrapbook. Go figure, it has a lot to do with color and design. My favorites are Ali Edwards because of her down to earth personality and scrapbooking. Nothing frilly, it tells a story about life.

8. I really want a Canon Rebel XSI. My cousin has one very similar. I loved just holding it! I want to take my photography to a whole new level, but I must wait. Sadly. 

9. Adobe Photoshop. It's fun and there are a billion things you can do with it. I don't even have the most updated version and I still can waste tons of time on it.

10. Chocolate. I love chocolate. The darker, the better. I hate Hershey's (sorry Hershey fans, but you are believing in a fantasy, better chocolate IS out there). Foreign, Godiva, and Dark Bittersweet. That's the good stuff.

11. Beyond Yourself. I think it is soooo important to know that living for yourself does not bring happiness or fulfillment. It brings misery. But, living beyond yourself, FOR something, that will bring life meaning. I live for Christ, the measure of all things, the Creator of Heaven and Earth. There is nothing bigger I could live for. I live for Him.

12. Selflessness. This kind of goes with 11. Selfishness is a pet peeve of mine. Being selfish grates on my nerves (even when it's myself!); selfish over the environment, stuff, ideas. Companies being selfish and people being selfish. Let's give each other some room and think of others before ourselves and how to better our OWN way of life. Let's care about each other.

13. Happily married for 4 1/2 years and counting. I couldn't believe that my 5 year wedding anniversary is coming up! My...how much I have learned about life, love, relationships, money, and motivation in that last 4 1/2 years.

14. Culture watcher. Having majored in InterCultural Studies....it's nice to know that my interests are still there. I like to watch how things change and ideas change on how culture and generations live.

15. I am not a winner. Okay. I mean this in the total superficial way. I don't win at games (only occasionally when my husband lets me), I don't win at drawings. I don't win anything.....hardly. But the weirdest thing happened when I won a Nintendo Wii from a random drawing. WEIRD. 

16. I love Jesus.